Flawed Premise #7: "With enough effort and hard work, I can accomplish anything."
When a person is vibrationally out of balance with what we really want ... NO amount of struggle, determination, or hard work will get us want we want...be it material objects, health, situations, or desired relationships. Otherwise people who perform backbreaking physical work would be rich as kings and always sitting on top of the world. What Abe tells us about this flawed premise is the opposite of what most of us have been taught.
Unless our 'feelings, beliefs, focus and attention' are in sync with what we want... no amount of 'hard work' will help. If one concentrates and continuously focuses upon on "what is" and "what I do NOT want" --this is all the Law of Attraction is able to respond to. Keeping our attention on what we DO want and being mindful of our thoughts...enables us to be in a state of allowing so that we are vibrationally open to receive what we want ...This, then, coupled with postive work, action, planning... becomes the magic key. It takes practice...and willingness to abandon ones old ways of thinking and believing.
False Premise #8: "To be in Harmony with another, we have to Want and Believe the same things."
Sometimes, what initially binds people together is what they are against. This will never be 'enough' for any relationship between two people or even a large group -- to keep them together. To think relationships will continue in harmony because of one's 'against-beliefs' will sooner or later result in DISharmony. It is the nature of the soul to grow and expand. ANY kind of growth or expansion is dependant upon contrast. The best relationships of any kind are had by people who allow the other to differ from them--not insist upon sameness. This does not mean one isn't free to leave a situation; but until one has learned to allow others to disagree with, or disapprove of them... they will gravitate towards the same situations that 'broke them up' in the first place. Regardless of how much a couple (or group) thinks they have in common... it doesn't take long for differences to be appear, which in turn, presents each individual with a chance to grow and expand his own consciousness. One's happiness can never be dependant upon another to 'make them happy.' If one is comfortable and secure enough in his own beliefs...he will find it so much easier to allow others their differing beliefs.
Flawed Premise #9: "The Path to my Joy is through my Actions. When I am feeling bad, I can get to a Better Feeling Place by taking Action. I can focus upon a situation that I think is the reason for my feeling bad, and then walk away from it. And once away from it, I will feel better. I can get to what I want by walking away from what I don't want."
To quote Abraham: "Your true happiness happens when you discover that no one other than yourself is responsible for the way you feel. If you believe that others are responsible for the way you feel, you are in true bondage, because you cannot control how THEY behave or how THEY feel."
Another quote in response to a workshop attendee who asked if he wouldn't be better off leaving a job he hated. Abraham's response to this was : "Whatever you are giving your attention to is offering a vibrational frequency, and your attention to it for an extended period of time that same frequency to be active within you. It is important to remember that when a vibration is active within you, taking the physical action of walking away from it will NOT prevent it from being present in your experience. In clearer terms, the action of walking away does NOT hold enough power to compensate for the attraction power of your thoughts."
This is how "blame" keeps you glued to the person or situation or circumstance that is making your miserable. Basically, you cannot walk away from yourself. As Seth said: "You get what you focus upon. There is no other main rule."
I never could truly understand WHY (and it used to really gripe me! :) the Universe could not understand something as simple as "I don't want that!!" ...Like: "I don't want to be sick" or "I don't want to be poor" or "I don't want to be treated like that," etc, etc, etc....ad-infinitum. But -- when I began to realize it is not the WORDS themselves the Law of Attraction is gleaning ...its the vibration that one is emitting that is doing the "asking" or "inviting"... things cleared up. This is not easy to overcome but it can be done. If I can do it, anybody can! :)