Wednesday, February 23, 2011

It's "OK!" to Feel Hate!! Or As Rosanna Rosana Danna (SNL) used to say: "I'm Ok, You're OK. I'm my Own Best Friend!"

Do you remember the last time you truly felt hateful towards some one?...or perhaps a group of people. I do. Wasn't that long ago!
There are times when hatred seems to overtake our entire being. During those horrid times , we may feel like we'll never be able to feel good or at peace again. But we CAN. If we want to.
Feeling hatred is not 'wrong' ... Negative emotions of any kind does not make us 'bad.' They are a valid part of being human...and we experience them for reasons of balance and equilibrium. They are the biggest part of our built in Guidance System.
There is no such thing as remaining in a 'good mood' or dwelling in a constant immersion of 'positive emotions.' Life is made up of the Yin and the Yang... If it wouldn't be for the Darkness -- how would we recognize the Light?
Seth very wisely warned us not to attempt to be rid of, or cover up our so called negative emotions with false nice-isms... Or as Abe says: You don't slap a happy face sticker over a gas gauge that shows empty and keep driving!
If left alone, these emotions will run their course and we will feel 'normal' again. We tend to equate hatred with violence, but this is not necessarily a truth. Seth also told us it is not hatred that leads to violence... it is a sense of powerlessness that leads to violence.
People who perpetrate violence physically OR verbally... have a desperate need to control others because they do not believe in themselves... or the validity and inate goodness of their being.
Hatred is an instant reaction to FEAR. Fear, it is said, is the 'parent' of hate. When someone or some group or some action has upset our own personal little apple cart, we feel, temporarily that we have lost control... If we ALLOW whoever or whatever upsets us to keep bothering us; if we keep focusing and giving our attention to the situation; when we realize we cannot change them or the situation ... we feel powerless....this results in Fear...and this CAN lead us to violence... physically, verbally...or both.
When a person purposely tries to immediately stifle, cover up, or swallow all of their feelings / emotions; and believes he has 'no right' to 'negative emotions' ... those emotions will still make themselves known! Refusing to recognize the validity of ANY of our emotions and trying to bury them deep within us will makes them even stronger. Sooner or later they WILL surface. They will harm us -- by manifesting as sickness, either mental or physical. Guilt over one's 'negative emotions' may also result in one's emotional dam overflowing -- and again -- ill health, mental or physical, will result. OR it can affect what one materially manifests in life. They will appear as the unwanted consequences of our 'punishing ourselves' for not being 'good enough.'
Negative emotions (or GOOD emotions!) of any kind are basically trying to 'tell us something.' In order to find out what that 'something' is ... it requires putting aside our 'wanting to control,' easily frightened or offended, fragile, demanding Ego. It also requires abandoning the need to make 'others' wrong. This doesn't mean that those 'others' haven't been 'wrong' and maybe they ARE complete jerks...(or worse!) but NOTHING provides a stronger glue that binds us to those self-damaging negative emotions as does BLAME.
Sometimes people forget that Blame has the potential for causing more self-inflicted damage to ourselves than do the comparitively short bouts with hate, jealousy, anger, verbal or even physical spats, etc etc etc... because Blame and Resentment can be found to stay with people for years...and years... You will find these traits embedded within people who always appear to be very 'positive' or cheery, or long suffering martyrs, etc etc etc ...
Both my daughter and I found ourselves really hating a certain 'group of people'... and our wish was to have them beamed up into outer space to endlessly float there... Personally I thought we were being more than generous. We KNEW the feelings we had would subside on their own... we wanted them to... That is basic to any kind of healing! BUT we did not try to slap a happy face sticker on the situation...or say "I don't REALLY feel that way..." ...cuz oh YES, we did!! The trick here is about having bare-faced self-honesty... and it helps so so so much to self-realize that it doesn't FEEL GOOD to hate.... regardless of how 'justified' we think our feelings might be.
I have known only several people who seemed to spend their entire lives being angry, resentful, hating others, and constantly blaming. Victims of the worst kind. One died early in life...the others punished themselves by living long, unhappy, exceedingly miserable lives. Even when a 'wrong' is done to us and happens!... we cannot let those suckers WIN by keeping us in a perpetual state of hate or blame. It hardly hurts them and it devastates us!!.
I do believe that, even though its ok, normal, fine, etc, to experience negative emotions...that we are capable of lessening the intensity of their duration. I do also believe that we are capable of learning to detach more quickly from unpleasant to 'bad' situations. This doesn't mean to 'shut down' or become some sort of a stoic. But to expand our consciousness to the point where we can 'see' and have our experiences in life with a much broader, more enlightened perspective. Even though most of us agree that we DO create our own reality...this doesn't mean trying to over-analyze everything from the standpoint of "what did I do wrong? what did I do to create this?" A lighter attitude of 'OK...I'm willing to see what I need to see, and learn what I need to learn'... __and mean it!__ Then Let It Go and move on! Because blaming oneself is just as self-damaging as blaming others. It keeps us stuck in the muck.
Someone once said: "It's not that we have so much more to learn... as there is more UN-learning that we need to do" ... dropping some of those old dogmatic ideas and beliefs that keep us down... Instead we must determine to allow ourselves to become more of the self-empowered creators that we really are. Seth said: "You take it all too seriously." We have got to stop living in FEAR... As the P's always say: "Everything we experience comes from one of two sources ... one is Love and the other is Fear."
Trust. Trust. Trust.... We just gotta do it! Nerd

People who sit around and wait for the 'world to end' so things can be 'better' are going to get very sore butts.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Who are the homeless people?

Why are there homeless? Who makes up the homeless? Why is it we so often lack sympathy for them?
Few people are so ignorant that one hears "Why don't you get a job ?!" To hear that kind of a remark reflects that one is entirely oblivious to what is happening all around well as to themselves.
The majority of all homeless people are veterans. Those who marched off to war to serve 'god and country' -- killing people in foreign countries, destroying their land and property. Most of the veterans who are now living as homeless on the streets paid with their MINDS doing 'the duty' that was required of them. When they returned to the states many had to be continuously drugged up in order to at least partially fit in with the establishment.
The majority of those who join the military do so because it is a JOB... It's a paycheck, one is furnished with housing and health care... although the latter is somewhat of a joke.... ask anyone dependant upon the VA hospital/care systems.
I myself worked in a facility for veterans who could not function on the 'outside'... and they were, in my opinion, guina pigs to see how many psychotropic drugs they could endure... and remain passive and 'not cause trouble....and not die' One man took over 20 different psychotropic drugs per day.
So...until everyone refuses to go to war ... war will continue as a 'necessity' and a mind set... War is also big business and profitable for corporations. Human life is dispensable. It's all OK as long as we salute 'those who serve' and tell them they are deserving of honor because they are serving us and god.... We desperately try believe this. That is the really sad part.
We get angry when 'bums'... or more politcally correct called 'street people'... ask for money. Many DO want drugs, cigarettes, or booze. And naturally, we self-righteously condemn them for that. I've done it. I'm not going to LIE about that ... but there has always been something inside me that 'knows better' ... Denver has many shelters and many places to get 'free foods/meals.' We figure that's all they need.
The next largest group -- although it blends right in with the first group -- are the mentally ill. These are the ones that are not just dysfunctional in so far as inability to hold down a job -- but are brain damaged from trauma, or from drugs (legal or illegal) or from situations that caused them to shut down mentally. War will do that. (oh gee... did I forget??? Its all those bad terrorists fault...we have no choice but to go to war...) This group seldom has access to any kind of consistant medical/mental health assistance and are simply turned loose on the street.
The third and smallest group are made up of teens and youth... "Well, if they would just have listened to their parents!" ... many of them did. That's why they left home. They are a sub culture of their own. Many are into drugs... some are not. there stories are sad. Its a matter of survival.
These three groups make up over 90% of all the 'homeless" in our country. The rest are the ones that, for personal reasons, are 'drop outs' because they cannot deal with the games the establishment plays. Some may have 'good reasons'... but we tend to say NONE have good reason... and we refuse to show any mercy.
For a so called Christian nation, many have little sympathy, empathy, understanding, or tolerance of the homeless. Some people are totally callous -- not yet being enlightened to the fact that We ARE All ONE... It doesn't mean we can 'save' others...but it is a matter of one's own Inner Feelings -- especially feelings of compassion...AND...Non-Judgement.
There are some who through tragic reasons become homeless --including families-- and have no where to go. Usually these people receive help. Although the help afforded to illegals in this country is FAR greater and speedier. (not THEIR fault... this is just the way our government operates.)
I am not discounting the people who, following their own decisions and heart, do what they can and feel they must do to help alleviate the suffering of others. The person we are ACTUALLY serving ... is OURSELF. There is something to the old stand-by: What goes around, comes around.
You'll decide inbetween lives what you need to experience, learn, and even enjoy. This is not about 'punishment' or 'threats' ... just a way of our learning what best connects us to Source/God/our Higher Selves, etc..and truly Feeling GOOD.
I think much of our cruel-feeling reactions towards the homeless is fear based. Is there anything we would want to experience LESS than what they are going through? It's doubtful.
If I give a dollar to a beggar ... I should not care WHAT he/she does with it. If you want that dollar held accountable...its probably best I don't give anything. Many 'resentful givers' are not happy about what they 'pay themselves' -- getting very little satisfaction out of their purchases even though they THOUGHT it would make them happy.
From a metaphysical viewpoint: When Jesus said "Whatever you have done for the least of these, my brethern, you have done it unto me". ... he was talking about honoring our OWN Christ Source within, our OWN InnerSelf... that which brings us true joy ... which is never accomplished by 'dutiful giving' to either others ...or oneself.
So the next time a homeless person approaches us asking for spare change ... we should perhaps take pause and momentarily dispense with judgment...and at least answer the person with respect. Perhaps inwardly blessing him or her, and wishing them well... and if we DO give out that dollar ... know that we are doing it to honor the Source within US ... What I am saying applies to ME, too... because too often I have forgotten... and I have to remind myself --ask myself "Why did this person come to ME? What am I to learn here?" You know...that good ol' Law of Attraction!