Is It Always 'Good' to Give to Others??

 

Don't donate, don't give anything away, don't be charitable and give away money...if you have to worry about 'what will they do with it.'

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 I am not saying I am always exempt from that kind of thinking... but I am aware of it. The best teaching (to me) that comes into alignment with this subject comes from Abraham: "If your happiness depends up circumstances or others changing or acting to suit you, you will not experience the happiness you are seeking."
How often have you heard "I would give that poor person some money, but who knows what he will do with it!" I've said that... and I feel safe in saying "so have you..."
The old aphorism "It is more blessed to give than to receive" has generally gotten misinterpreted. If one thinks that 'giving' in any shape, manner, or form will make our halos shine brighter -- or expect our generosity to score brownie points with the recording secretary of Karma... it's just not gonna work, folks.
What we tend to forget: Everything is energy. Everything is vibration or frequency... So the 'solidness' of our 'generous deeds in giving ANYTHING' is for naught.  People who 'give' because their good deeds are meant to be self-benefitting tax write offs... are at least being honest with themselves.

We so often 'give' because we feel we are 'supposed to' Some feel it's their 'religious duty' ...but I'm not going to even go into that one.

Unless we can totally 'let go' of what it is we are giving; be it money or material goods of any kind, we shouldn't give it away.  If one is afraid that the 'receiver' is going to turn around and misuse, --or heaven forbid, SELL what he was given...(what a horrible personal insult that would be to us! ) it would be better to toss it in a dumpster so that NO ONE could do that dirty deed. (and then some might still worry about who might find it!)

Martyrs have imposed martyrdom on themselves. Most of us know what it feels like to hear the words "after all I've DONE for you...!"  Not fun and it makes us feel anger more than the eternal gratitude we 'should' feel.

This is basically no different than giving a homeless person five bucks and seeing him buy a pack of cigarettes instead of 'spending it wisely' on a Big Mac. How dare they waste 'our' money like that!

We should give because it makes us FEEL GOOD. Period. What 'they' do with what we gave to them is actually none of our business. If we can't accept that, then we should not give anybody anything. Period. If one has trouble with what I just said (and I would understand your reaction) then it simply should point out to us how deeply programmed we have been as to our 'reasons' for giving.

We all need to learn that what others do, how they react, (if it meets with our approval or not) is none of our concern/business/problem, etc etc etc. 

I am not advocating being unkind, unsympathetic, or apathetic towards our fellow human beings. If we 'give' because we feel we need to be 'better' or that somehow this will 'erase our sins' for just being who we are... then we need to face that within ourselves. We need not be martyrs on any level, even though, unfortunately, we have been taught that 'sacrifice' or suffering is necessary to cleanse our sinful souls. 

Abraham has often been asked "So are you teaching us to be selfish, self-centered people?" Their surprising answer is "Yes" but that answer can only be understood by those who have looked inwardly and have seen The Light. To say that Feeling Good is 'bad' is to have a totally skewed understanding. Sadly, we elevate 'suffering' as being ' god-like. Abe has also said: If we really and truly Feel Good (or genuinely generous) we will not bring harm, physical or emotional to ANYONE! In that spirit we can give or donate whatever-- without placing obligations or  conditions (to satisfy our own egos!!) on our offerings.

We have been fed so many unhealthy lines that are filled with bovine elimination.

To Feel Good is to be in Alignment with Source. Feeling Good is not something we have to 'earn'... it is simply understanding and aligning with that we are ONE with what we call God, Universe, Source, Spirit, All That Is, etc etc etc, and when we are in THAT place, we can truly be of the greatest benefit to ALL people, places and things that we encounter. The act of 'giving' from THAT Feel Good Place will enforce that Oneness. We will have served that which is the Highest within ourselves.  THAT is using Energy wisely!

That is honoring ourselves and others... freeing others to make their OWN choices, because it is NOT up to us to make those choices for them.

Forget the 'yeah, but's' that arise if you have a tendency to condone those lofty arguments we take such false pride it. Please remember that I said I, too, have to watch 'myself'...I am not saying anything that I don't have to remind myself of.  OK? OK!

I was walking, on Colfax, with someone who said she declined giving money to a hungry looking homeless person, because: "I'd like to give her money, but she'd probably just buy drugs with it, and what if she would die from it??" I replied, actually surprising myself, "Well, what if she got killed crossing the street on her way to buying a Big Mac" ... I was prepared to hear her say "Well, that would have been up to God" ... but thankfully, she didn't... She just looked at me in a strange way and said "oh...yeah."....

I felt it was ok to let my Ego feel that one small victory.  

After all, I learned from that incident, too.

Namaste'

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Oh My God.... literally..or figuratively...

 

 "You have cast your idea of god, therefore, in your own image."
Seth Speaks
Session 560, Page 203

Probably no other word that we can think of, provokes such emotion, feelings, confusion, wondering, and self-examination, as the word 'god'.

Someone once wrote that we are born searching for 'god.' I agree with this, but maybe not in the way one may think.

We are born 'searching'...I do believe this is true. We are also born wanting to find and experience a joyful, adventurous, stimulating life. But soon we are subjected to 'learning' which basically amounts to adapting to the ways of our parents, teachers, and any and all authority figures. I believe the majority had the best of good and loving intentions.  It's all a mixed bag.

Those of us who chose to experience 'religion' and various perceptions of 'god' really took on quite a challenge.

So what exactly is God? To some of us, raised with good ol' fear and guilt conditioning, God was the spy in the sky, much worse than the NSA or the KGB, who knew our every thought, watched our every move, and was always ready to judge -- punish (or if we really are 'good') and reward us -- every second of the day. And the 'reward' will be, after death, burning in eternal hell fire... or walking streets of gold, playing harps, and eternally singing praises to this God... which is not that far removed from the other 'reward.'  IMO.

To many of us, it was a long hard struggle to overcome this kind of programming. What we 'overcame' depended upon our experiences and our own personalities.

For me, God went from being a horribly monstrous all powerful entity that lived in some indefinite. nebulous region 'in the sky' to something entirely different. For some people, raised with no particular kind of dogma or religious training, there was not much to overcome. In some cultures their own brand religion is so embedded in their government, schooling, local organizations, etc, that it isn't 'taught' so much as it is simply 'absorbed.' It's 'just the way it is.'

There are thousands of religious ideas and an equal number of ways to define who and what God is. I think that the Christian religion is one the most totally diversified religion of all the Earth's religions... Many of the teachings, from widely differing church dogmas, directly oppose each other, which for many result in "my way is the ONLY way." and  "God is definitely on my/our side." Much of this is due to VERY personal translations and interpretations of the Bible to use as 'proof' to win personal arguments for or against 'good or evil.'

To overcome this type of programming takes guts, fortitude, determination, intelligence, and enlightenment. Pretty much in that order.

When we get to the point where we realize and are willing to truly accept that everyone "is where they is"

and stop being angry and judging... and are being  willing and able to see that it's ALL OK -- that our only job is to deal with our own stuff: then we are finally in a place where we are FREE of programming, dogma, religious threats and or promises, and the various concepts of 'god.' When we are able to allow others to have their own beliefs without over-reacting and going totally  bonkers over what we consider outrageous or 'wrong' concepts or beliefs, we are then indeed FREE of 'others' opinions. 

I used to bristle when I so much as heard others use the word 'god.' I even had a very adverse reaction to anyone who  said "God bless you." So I have come a very looooong way!

I am not saying we have to 'agree' with what others believe. Far from it!! But we need to learn to DETACH from fearful-based reactions to what others say or believe. And yes..it IS fear!...not some 'superior and advanced thinking' on our parts... although we may like to think that!  

That which is Life itself, The Creative Force, the Field of Love, the ALL THAT IS ... cannot be truly adequately defined regardless of what words we use. There is nothing wrong with calling that "God."  I do know that I have come to see that this Force is what we are made of and that NOTHING exists without it...nothing in the Universe and whatever is Beyond. When I 'pray to God' I know that I am speaking to, reaching out to, the Spirit, The All That Is, that is within me. Not to some kind of all-powerful-human-like entity that exists outside of myself. Altho, if that is what people want to believe, it is their right...their choice. If we are familiar with and aware of The Law of Attraction, we KNOW we Create It All... and if 'others' with some seemingly outrageous beliefs hurt or bother us, hard as it is to 'take': we inwardly know that we have either consciously or often unconsciously attracted a problem to us. it is only when we accept this, that we will know what True Freedom is.

We have 'done it all' according to Seth...so basically, who are we to judge and condemn? Discern? OF COURSE!! That is what Contrast is all about... but to blame others, which is what the self-serving,  demanding Ego is always nagging us to do...is not a choice that will  ever serve us well or bring us peace. Inner or Outer.

What Seth says, in the above quote, really nails it. As we grow, spiritually, so do ALL of our concepts and perceptions.

Religion, like political parties, philosophical groupings, etc. are all 'man-made' limiting ideas. Whether or not there is a 'they' that wants to divide and therefore control us -- who knows. We are individually STILL the one in charge.

When we finally stop feeling driven to be 'in the right group' or 'seek approval from others to validate ourselves' will indicate that we are on the way to utilizing our real inner Power....

When we allow others to think and be the way the want... we find it easier for us to do the same for ourselves.

Funny how that works...

NAMASTE'

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