Choosing to be FREE from "Being Right" ...

We all know someone who 'knows it all.' They are never wrong, always know better than anyone else, and their word is the final authority on any given subject. It's a tough job, but somebody's gotta do it! :)

However, there is that part in all of us that, at times, may come pretty darn close to 'those people' when it comes to 'being right.' Thing is: maybe you are right. You may even have 'facts' to back you up, or maybe your knowing comes from your own personal experience. It's times like that when you feel you simply MUST convince the other person by offering data, facts, and research... but! he or she is just not buying it. You give up. You are chagrined, to say the least; maybe even angry, and your mind starts racing thinking up ways to 'get even' or 'show' that other person a thing or two!  Sometimes its easy to Let Go of... other times it isn't.

A similar situation that can be difficult to handle is when someone doesn't disagree with you; they simply put down what you say with rudeness or sarcasm. Nothing else.

Even though we think we should be at a 'spiritual level' where we can just dismiss all of this banter, it comes as a very unpleasant surprise when we find ourselves reacting in a way that makes us realize we haven't 'evolved' as much as we thought! :)

All of these ways of reactive thinking can be attributed to the scared little Ego. It wants to be 'right;' it wants to 'get even', and it wants to be recognized and craves acceptance and approval. If our ego receives that approval, then we tend to accept ourselves and believe in our self worth.' Even if we realize and recognize the metaphysical truth behind our reactions it can still, at times, be a bit of a battle. This is an important pivotal point. If we can at least recognize what is going on internally, that is truly half the battle.

The Ego, is clever, wily, and tricky...and can persuade us to take another route while arguing/discussing/debating with someone,  and we might find ourselves donning aura of holiness, smiling sweetly, and saying with false humility: "Of course, you are right"...adding just enough 'sincerity' to one's voice to show oneself most effective.

On an equal par to that is simply to stop speaking, stopping all communication. This is not giving in or giving up... it's a strategy for 'winning' ... without making any concessions or allowances.

None of these routes make us a 'winner.'... People who 'win' arguments receive a sense of satisfaction...for a short time.... but even then that temporary satisfaction can become craven, wanting, and addicting. 'Satisfaction' always pertains to that which is on the 'outside'... not one's internal true self.

Now....what if we really ARE 'wrong' about something: something we have done, said, or acted upon, knowing better but doing or saying it anyway! When we refuse to own it, claim it, or admit to it, it brings about the same obsession to be 'right' -- raising the same 'need' and obsession for justification, approval, superiority, acceptance, etc etc... 

What if someone has 'caught you' and challenges you on  this wrong doing in a very judgmental, harsh, or rude way. A common reaction is to make excuses, defend and justify yourself with a plethora of 'yeah, but's!' Now the Ego has really lost its footing! We can conjure up excuses that would convince the toughest jury that what we did or said was 'justifiable' or at least 'understandable.' but -- we still lose...and it leaves the Ego is in a quandry.

NO amount of justification or winning arguments brings happiness and or PEACE of mind... The false appearance of 'winning' leaves us feeling disconnected from Source, from Spirit, from God... whatever one wishes to label as the Divine, the Knowing within us.

None of this means one has to be passive and agree with those around us. One can still be firm and stand one's ground. But I truly believe everyone has that inner sense of when you are crossing that line and feeding that egoic craving to be 'right' at all costs.

When one IS 'wrong' about something...you know it... you can feel it...and the only way to cut those ties to those miserable feelings that bind you is to OWN it...ADMIT to it... This is the beginning of true inner freedom. Those other feelings of hurt or even anger may linger awhile, as will those feelings of inner struggle felt when one has given up on the need to always be 'right'... I can tell you from my own 'battles' that when you are willing to give up the addiction of 'being right' and are willing to 'own' what you have done 'wrong'  it eventually DOES get easier! In its place comes a priceless, wonderful feeling of inner freedom and inner peace.  You know you have utilized your Inner Power and detached from the cause of the pain.

It's amazing how much time and energy one can spend reacting to or arguing about things that do not really matter...or that actually have nothing to do with us. 

There is a lot of merit in the old saying: "Pick your battles wisely." Perhaps it's just as wise to know when to lay down the sword and just Let It Go and Let It Be.

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Namaste'

 

 



Why I've Stopped Fighting The War

 

I just got tired of it. The whole war thing.

As I start to write this, we still await Obama's speech that is scheduled for tonight. It would be nice to hear that we are not invading Syria... but that is just my opinion, and I once again have 'enlightened myself' to the fact that I have no business, right, or obligation to try to instill, coerce, or influence my opinion on anyone else. (That doesn't mean that I might not attempt to do that in other situations.:) It does mean that I will take working  with my Intentions much more studiously and seriously. The P's suggested that we say this often: "It is my intention that whatever I say or do, wherever I am, to be for my highest good and the highest good of all concerned."

"I intend Joy, Safety, Harmony, and Clarity"

That pretty much covers everything we encounter.

I have pretty much waylaid those intentions in my struggle with 'the war on Syria'... except maybe for Clarity:...which I used more like Pres Nixon: "Let me make one thing perfectly clear"...in defending my position. :) We all know how well that worked out.

I found myself resentful towards others who seemed to NOT CARE about 'what was happening'... but my biggest trigger point came from people who wanted to 'go and bomb.' I am sure my own anger came as close in intensity as to those of the warmongers. Except, of course, my own anger was 'understandable' and 'righteous.' :) 

During my 'hippie like days' in the 60's and 70's, I had FUN protesting. I could get emotional and determined, but it was still all exciting and FUN. Nothing about this Syria event was/is fun. Spiritually, this meant only one thing: I was giving away my power to what I did not believe in.

We live in world that is branching off in so many different directions. This energy is having a very polarizing effect and we have to figure out what really 'works' for us and what doesn't--otherwise you will feel lost and ungrounded. What you focus and concentrate upon you GET MORE OF ... a basic metaphysical law based on scientific law (for those of you who insist science has the only answers...which makes me giggle...) We DO create our own reality...either consciously or unconsciously (like Abe says) by Default... which often leaves us mistakenly feeling we had no choice in the matter. Manifestation takes its cues from beliefs including those that are unrecognized. Like you've gone into overdrive. 

I knew that my war bashing, government bashing ways of interpreting the Syrian event were totally out of alignment to that which I truly wanted... There was always that still, small, (sometimes very annoying) voice that would keep reminding me that I was not only off track, but sometimes totally derailed. This does NOT mean that I am now suddenly flapping some wings and speaking with the tongues of angels. And neither does my change of direction mean that I have developed a steely like attitude adopting as a logo "I don't give a damn about any of it!" That attitude is just anger turned inward instead of outward. Now I once again realize I will only choose to 'care' as much as my emotional compass allows me to feel comfortable with.

If people want to go play war and bomb and kill and then spend their lives justifying what they do/did. Let'm. I'm sure I've done it in other lives. (So glad Seth kept reminding us 'you have done it all')... Those, to me, are the words that truly speaks of Equality. :) I had chosen to ignore other lessons once learned: especially the one wherein the P's reminded us that it takes a brave soul to take on the role of a Hitler or a Bush (or insert your favorite bad guy's name) It's so easy to be taken up in our dramas, forgetting Who We Really Are. I am not exactly to the point where I always feel lovingly or have that We Are All One feeling towards those I disapprove of'! ... but you know what? That's ok, too! Just experiencing the feeling of nonattachment and Letting it Be-- is for me, right now, a feeling of immense relief in which I CAN 'feel the love'...and in all honesty, DO wish all others well on their journeys, regardless of how diverse we are from each other. Because you see...it IS TRUE what Abe says: There is nothing more important that you strive for than to FEEL GOOD. Not the 'victorious' or self righteous or better than' feeling of winning the arguments (or WARS)...but that warm waterfall feeling of being free and clean and light. Took me a number of years to understand and believe what Abe was talking about--because it sounded selfish and 'uninvolved'. ... I had to get past that "let's buckle down and get SERIOUS" business. "FIGHT" for what you believe in...take the side of Right!

One can still be a Watcher and an Observer and see the results of manifestations all around us... without allowing oneself to be absorbed mentally or physically and hopelessly lost in it all.

I am not saying my once again metaphysically renewed POV is 'the' right one. We each have to do what is best for us. I would caution everyone, however, to intend to 'own your own mind' when it comes to the 'news' and all the mind control and programming that is going on. This is simply outwardly reflecting our own inner struggles. As above so below. As within so without.

So...whatever Obama comes up with tonight (which is hardly his decision alone) it will all be alright. A balance will always return. We will experience that faster if we don't focus on what appears to be utter chaos. There IS a Divine Order. Even 'science' has proved there is order within so called chaos or randomness.

I believe that the best we can do is to be at Peace with ourselves, accepting ourselves and stop being at war with what we 'think' is wrong with us. We do NOT all experience the same world! Regardless of what is or will be happening 'out there' ... we need to concentrate first of all -- on being at peace with ourselves and those around us.... I believe that IS the key. Its not about 'fixing what is OUT THERE'... but tending to what is 'in here'...  Maybe then we will better understand...and allow ourselves...

 to "Give Peace A Chance." 

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Namaste'