There are times it's not easy to Let Go. Not even when we know that something we are hanging onto is hurting us. Whether it be a situation, an addiction, a relationship, habits, ideas or beliefs that are doing us no good whatsoever...even when we are aware that something 'is bad' for us ... we tend to keep clinging to it. A sign that we are still clinging to what is harming us usually means we have not accepted full responsibility for creating our own reality about 'what happened.'
Part of what I see as damage caused by certain New Age gurus (it's not _ONLY_ organized religion that has harmed our psyches) who told us that we had to 'work it out' ... 'think it all the way through' ...ANALYZE it to death! ...but it seldom made the problem 'go away.' Often the problem just fed on this 'therapeutic unwavering attention'....Constant analyzing of one's 'problem' is another way of -refusing- to give it up.
We call it our spiritual duty to "fix it." Fix it so we can solve the problem, live in peace, and have 'closure.' (I really dislike that word!) Sounds relatively simple, eh? Seldom worked. Often we were encouraged to keep 'digging deep into the past' to find 'the root of the problem.' Always looking for the bad stuff!
We were encouraged to concentrate on the problem rather than on the solution ... Good ol' Siggy Freud: if you don't 'expose it all to the light' it will breed catastrophe in your deep, dark subconscious... and we accepted that line of ap-cray for a long time. Along with religion this idea taught us to believe that we couldn't trust our inner selves. Not only does modern psychiatry still chase after this idea, so does a lot of "pop-psychology therapy" forwarded by the New Age. I FINALLY understand what Seth was talking about when he told us--you can only HEAL THE PAST from THE PRESENT!! There is NOTHING "back there" that isn't right here....right now... A perpetual archaeological dig into the dark, mysterious caverns of the mind is pure unmitigated bovine elimination...as disempowering and fear based as it can get. An occasional dig might be helpful, but as a way of 'solving the problem' its a total flop.
It can be very difficult at times to accept full responsibility for creating 100% of our reality. But if we don't, we will never heal. I'd often become annoyed and judgmental towards some friends who refused to believe we create it all; most likely because I was having my own struggles with it at times! But once we DO --Once we really get the hang of it -- of accepting and claiming it all -- we are on our way to FREEDOM and a joyful re-connection with Source...the kind of connection that makes us FEEL GOOD!
The recent death of a friend brought me to a place of 'seeing' this in a way that I just didn't 'get' before. I have been through exhausting emotions: anger, grief, frustration, and more anger. So much of my anger was because he and I were not on what is called 'good terms' before he died. Then I discovered it was not really a big deal...because 'good earthly terms' is not what we are here to learn. We are each here to learn about ourselves. I am not telling 'the story' ... that's of little importance...only the results are. WHY the story is much more important than the story itself. No wonder the P's say Stop telling your stories!
Each of us are vibrationally drawn to the people we need to experience. Sometimes we choose them before certain incarnations...it's all agreed upon, but of course, we totally forget that here on Earth...UNTIL we learn. We are NEVER EVER born to "save the world or each other" ... but to work our way back to self-empowerment, self-realization, and our true connection to Source, We have all kinds of adventures along the way (read Seth Speaks if this interests you)... The ones who seem to be the ones who nearly break our hearts and minds -- are there for us...and we for them. But don't let "co-creation" get you off the hook. You are not hear to learn to "forgive the other and get your gold star whammed onto your forehead" You are hear to see who we call "I" is supposed to see that which is holding us hostage. It doesn't make any difference if your encounters were with the most horrible people imaginable and it's not about all the BAD things they did to you (or we to them!) ... we are hear to learn from it... and saying "Learning to avoid the bastards" is far from the answer... There is no escape. No hiding place. It really is all about us.
Our 'goal' is not to be the "victim who survived" or the person applying for sainthood because you have "forgiven" some schmuck; and neither is it our goal to say "I have learned not to be like them" ... all of that stuff is so arrogant, so self-righteous, so velcro'd to the Ego who wants to be 'right' and get that recognition from 'others OR... their god' while feigning humility.
If you are standing on a road and a car is coming towards you, it's prudent to step out of the way. Right? Two things here. Number One: Why were you on that path (vibrationally) and, Number Two: Assume responsibility for being there and stop blaming the oncoming car. (Seth might even like that analogy! heh! )
As Abraham tells us: NOTHING comes at us "out of the blue"... it's all vibration and frequency and the P's back them up on that in all their teachings.It's not about right or wrong. It's not about all the "yeah but you just don't know how badly I was treated, hurt, devastated, etc etc etc" ... Yeah but's of ANYkind mean we are not ready to Move to A Higher Frequency because in clinging to our justifications it simply means we are not ready to Let Go. That's all Letting Go is really all about: accepting that we create it all. No, actually we don't need to understand the details. Eventually we will just FEEL..we just KNOW the peaceful answers to all those WHY'S that we pout around about like demanding toddlers throwing a fit. (or however it is that we play our little games...)
These 'new times" are really calling upon us to 'grow up'...and start accepting the roles that will allow us to be who we really are: Creators....and allowing ourselves to be that in the Field of Love just waiting for our acceptance. Namaste'.